If you have noticed, I have been blogging a little less in the past two months. I have been preoccupied. There is work, and my Master’s program. And then there is the Big C.
My father has had cancer for many years. He was given a crappy prognosis about 14 years ago. He kicked major ass. He refused to believe his life was over more than a decade ago. He found new treatments, got into experimental programs and generally was a hard ass with the doctors and told them, No—I will not die—so figure it out. And they did, and he won.
Well another battle has started. A couple of months ago he started having some major health problems—turns out it is a new, more fancy* cancer. He has always loved to upgrade!
So, I am home for the summer. Usually when I come home for a couple of weeks there is a lot of running around, visiting, friends and family. This summer I will be home for eight weeks. I will still be running around, but with a different agenda. Running errands, taking Dad to chemo, doing chores to make the house run smoothly, etc. I will be able to visit with family, too. My mom has been amazing, taking care of the house, their business and Dad with good humor and grace. My brother has been great too, as well as my parents’ community. People really want to help, neighbors and friends have been dropping by to help with house projects and leaving food. However, this summer I am hoping to take over many of these things so that Mom can have a break from being on medical duty 24/7 and have time to work in the office. I will also be the official “Kitchen Bitch” as we call it at our house.
It has been great to be home with my family, and be helping out. I have been able to *do* something. The last two months have sucked, nothing is worse than feeling impotent when your family needs help.
So, I am counting on my Dad being a stubborn SOB, and telling cancer to F*ck off again. Because that is the kind of guy he is, never runs away from a challenge and never cowed by the odds. I don’t do the God thing, but if you want to throw some good thoughts our way, positive Karma can is always a good thing. Karma can be a bitch, and I want it to be our bitch.
*fancy aka “wicked” rare.