Today is my second wedding anniversary. And the first one Bülent and I have celebrated together! While last year it felt like a surprise that I had been married for a whole year, this year it doesn’t. Not in a bad way but in a good way. This year we have dealt with a lot of things, cancer, chemo, death and despair, and Bülent has been there through everything. He supported me in every way he could, even when when I took a leave of absence from my job to spend time with my dad and flew 5000 miles away—for 6 months.
I am very lucky to have a partner as wonderful as he is. I still feel like I did last year, ecstatic to have a BFF and a lover wrapped up into one. But even luckier this year, because I know when things get tough, things are still good.
So my second wedding (to the same man in two months) is coming up. My parents flew in to Turkey for the wedding and decided since they were in the country to take advantage of the situation. We have taken two road trips, one to Kapadokya and one to the Black Sea Region. We have been having a blast since my parents are awesome.
I have already posted about Kapadokya, but will again soon since this time we went to different hotels, museums and restaurants. It was also really great to see my parents experience the amazing landscape for the first time. They also were able to share some new things with me.
My parents are early risers, so without them I never would have seen this.
Yes, I am standing barefoot in my pajamas. It was 6 am. My parents had seen the hot air balloons coming down at sunrise and pounded on my door until I stumbled out of bed to see what the hell was going on.
It really was amazing, if a little bit chilly in my pjs.
Last night we went to Bülent’s cousins wedding. It was fun, and also interesting to see how Turkish weddings differ from weddings in the US. Some of the traditions were different, but over all, it appeared very similar to a US wedding.
In Turkey, weddings are always civil ceremonies presided over by a government official. There are no lavish religious ceremonies. The wedding last night included the ceremony, and then cocktails and hordourves followed by cake, but they can also included dinners and lunches. It is not common here for the couple to “register” for gifts as they do in the US. Instead the couple is gifted with gold. After the ceremony, the families of the bride and groom approach the bride and give her their gifts–jewelry. By the end of this the bride was draped in gold necklaces and bracelets. She also had evil eyes pinned to her dress, to protect her from bad karma.
The rest of the wedding was pretty typical wedding stuff, small talk and dancing.
One notable difference between this wedding and others I have attended, had nothing to do with the geography. The bride, and her sister, are ballerinas. As were many of their friends. This created a wedding where there were many beautiful, svelte women who danced extraordinarily well, ruining the bell curve for the rest of us.