My Father, Dan

Born 1943-Died January 19, 2012 after a long and valiant battle with cancer.


Dan was a complex person, passionate about life and his family. He had a raucous sense of humor and a quick wit—he filled our lives with warmth and mirth. He fought for the best he could provide, for our family and our community. As a man of conviction, he may have butted heads with others along the way, but never let that get in the way of his integrity and honor. Despite the many hardships he’s encountered, he’s always been an adamant optimist. I think there are few people who could survive what he had and still be able to say that.

He was a fighter, when he was first diagnosed with cancer 15 years ago, he fought with a vengeance. I remember him telling me he just couldn’t leave when we were so little. I am grateful to him for that, that though I still feel “little,” I am now an adult who knows my own mind and heart, largely due to him.

He had a presence so huge that it is hard to imagine a world without him. I am grateful for every moment I had with him, and every memory I have for the future.



He will be missed.

14 thoughts on “My Father, Dan

  1. Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear this news. I don’t know you, Jules, but my heart goes out to you. We will likely be in your footsteps before long with my own Dad. I am so sorry for your loss, take care of yourself and may you find some silver linings.

  2. Hi Liz, Thank you for your comments and support. It is hard. My dad was so amazing. Today I didn’t die of sadness. So tomorrow is the next step. I wish you the best with your father and his journey.


  3. Julia,
    I know we haven’t seen or talked to each other in years but I’ve been reading your blog and I just want you to know how truly sorry I am for your loss. I have such fond memories of our childhood in girl scouts and even though I didn’t really know your father, I have surprisingly vivid memories of seeing him around town, seeing him drive past our house in his awesome oil fueled black Mercedes (we remember strange things don’t we?) But I just wanted you to know that I’m thinking of you and your family and praying for comfort for you all in this difficult time.


    • Hello Sarah,
      I remember girl scouts at your house too. And the smell of fries as my dad drove by in his vegetable oil powered car.
      Hope you are doing well and thank you for your kind words and prayers.


  4. My Dear Friend,
    What a beautiful tribute to your dad. It is also showing of what a wonderful, beautiful, and talented person you are. So lucky to call you friend and lucky to have had the chance to meet your dad. Love you.

  5. Dear Jules, Well said…. I have been thinking of all the things Dan was and is still to me and how very lucky I am that he was part of my life. I loved him, we butted heads on occasion but I always, always valued his advice and insight while I worked through the stuff I might not have wanted to hear. I will miss him and always be great full that I got to dance in that universe from time to time. Love You Honey xxoo rosebud

  6. Dear Jules,
    I am an old friend of your mom’s and through the years she has kept me proudly informed of your life, Eliot’s life and her beloved husband’s life.
    It was always very obvious her family was rich with love and happiness and
    her relationship with your dad was truly a “love story.”
    I am sincerely saddened with your dad’s passing but I am certain your presence and Eliot’s is a wonderful comfort.
    Hold onto those beautiful memories…….

    Warm regards,
    gail merloni

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